Virginity for marriage?

By Kimberly Fungai Chikanga.

As I was getting my hair done this afternoon, a lady came up for saloon "nyayas". Subject of the day? Girls and virginity . Hanzi kuti munhu aroorwe (She argued that for one to get married) should be a virgin vasisiri (those who are no longer virgins) say goodbye to marriage.

I just thought that I should put an answer to you all mothers, fathers, sisters, brothers, virgins and non-virgins out there.
Don't make us feel like we were born already guilty of something!

To begin with, male "virginity" is just as important as female virginity. The loss of virginity involves two people and name calling to females should STOP. We cannot make pretence a form of art and definitely NO to double standards.

We also need to look at how girls are loosing their virginity. We have ladies who get raped by their boyfriends and fail to get courage to say it out because they think they might be neglected. Date rape is real but of course so is pure intercourse too.

Educating peers is not about the virgins. Yes, thank you for taking care of yourself, go on, preach abstinence, preach protection when abstinence fails. That way, no esteem is killed. No name is called and equality is served. Stop calling us names.

Love doesn't come from virginity. There are 40 year old virgins who are not married and 24 yr old non virgins in blooming marriages. After all, virginity is but a one time thing, you can't lose twice, can you?

Please just stop, especially when you don't know our issues. Vamwe lose virginity through blackmail chaiyo kunzi ukaramba ndoenda kune anoda because it means you don't love me.

Most females are crossing rivers and dams for people who at the end wouldn't even cross a dust road for them. We hide a lot in us. Give us space to tell our stories before you call us names.
# iamforfemales

About the author.
Kimberly Fungai Chikanga is a CUT Student and the current gender secretary for ZINASU.